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BY POPULAR DEMAND: "Just Who Do You Think You Are? "... The Notes, ... well, Almost.

To my old friends, colleagues, and teammates of the past who have expressed interest, here is the outline distributed to the 2013 Cornell Football Team on their Career Day on Friday, April 26, 2013.

Don't mean to tease you all, but if you want the "blanks" filled in, just give a call. It would be my pleasure to pass on the answers, but better yet, just to talk and catch up.

Joe Cervasio

“JUST WHO DO YOU THINK YOU ARE?

… AND THE SEVEN SECRETS TO MAKE IT SO!”

 

By Joseph R. Cervasio,

ILR 1969, Cornell Football 1965-68

 

 

 

1. Welcome and Thank You.

 

 

 

1. Definition of Enthusiasm.

 

 

 

1. Purpose Statement.

 

 

 

1. “Just Who Do You Think You Are?”

 

 

 

1. The Answer

 

 

 

1. The 7 Secrets to Make it So:

 

L—E—A—D—E—R—S

 

 

VII.     The Rest of the Story

 

 

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ADDITIONAL NOTES:

 

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THE 7 SECRETS OF LEADERSHIP=L-E-A-D-E-R-S

 

 

 

Secret # 1, The Foundational Secret: L=Live in the________________.

 

1. The past is _______, the future is a ________, this moment is a gift, and that is why we call it the _________.
2. ________ dwells on the past; we strive and lust for the future out of________.
3. The barometer you are not in the present moment: _________.
4. To the _____, the present hardly exists.
5. If the mind carries a ________of the past, you will experience more of it.
6. When you receive a good gift, you are_______. If the present moment is a gift, why the_________? You will see that we spend little time ______this present; spending most of the time in the past or future,

 

“A feeling of peace and timelessness will show you have entered the present.” (Now or Never: The 11 Secrets of Arimathea {NN11SA}); “I have little use for the past and rarely think about it…” (Eckhart Tolle, The Power of Now); “Be anxious for nothing…” (Paul, Philippians 4:6) “Use every moment and every meeting to gain knowledge.” i.e., become a life-long learner and listener (NN11SA);

 

Secret #2, E=_____________

 

1. Empathize, do not ______________, which is cheap; walking in others’ shoes requires ___________________.
2. Love that expects ____ _____is the most powerful force in the world.
3. _______love eradicates selfishness, envy, jealousy, greed, lust, ignorance, and self-pity from the giver.
4. Love_______.
5. Enter their______.
6. __________ in entering others’ worlds builds understanding that leads to ____.

 

“Love every moment and every person, regardless how unlovable.” (NN11SA); “Greater love has no one than this, than to lay down one’s life for his friends, …” (John, John 15:13); “(Different) behaviors are not good or bad—but unless we acknowledge that we all function and reason differently, we will never understand one another, (NN11SA); “The Platinum Rule: Do unto others as they want to be done unto.” (Larry Wilson, Social Styles) Tim Tebow vs. Tom Brady lesson.

 

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Secret #3, A= Act _________:

 

1. _______creates reality.
2. _____what you are becoming.
3. Your ______ is in this moment.
4. Don’t dig up the seed. Stay in the process of __________.
5. Do not be afraid of  ___________.
6. Develop another ______________.**

 

“Practice faith until it is stronger than fear, lust, doubt, and anxiety.” (NN11SA); “Act as if in cold blood that it is, and it will become infallibly real.” (Napoleon Hill, Think and Grow Rich); “This, too, shall pass.” (Og Mandino, The Greatest Salesman in the World)

 

Secret #4: D=______ it now

 

1. Embrace ________, ________for others.
2. Don’t be better, be________.
3. Look forward to _______and the ________it will cultivate in you.
4. For situations to change, you must________.
5. Do it now, but never be __________.

 

“Activity dedicated to others will not tire the doer, but rather inspire and revitalize.” (NN11SA); “If you want to predict your future, invent it.” (Einstein); “Faith without works is dead.” (James, James 2:16) “Try not, … do or do not. There is no try!” (Yoda of “Star Wars.”) “Joe, don’t run ahead of your interference. Be patient.” (Carmen Piccone, Cornell Football Coach, 1968)

 

Secret #5: E=____________________

 

1. Recognize Inner______________.
2. Do not stereotype or limit _________.**
3. Do not stereotype or limit _________.**
4. Believers and atheists alike believe in the ____________in man.
5. Be __________/__________/__________of your miraculous capabilities.

 

“Know that in the moment, if you have done your best, all is well.” (NN11SA); “Don’t complain about the kids. They’re the only ones we have.” (Joe Paterno, Penn State Football Coach)

 

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Secret #6: R= Resist__________, ______________

 

1. ______ to surrender to the moment.
2. Give up the____________________.
3. Surrender is_________________ and ____________________.
4. Escaping to the past and future may be sign of _______, manifesting as_______________, _______________, _____________, ____________.
5. But, do not take counsel of your _____________!

• F=FALSE,E=EVIDENCE,A=APPEARING,R=REAL.
• F=FUTURE, E=EVENTS, A=APPEARING, R=ROTTEN.

 

“Child-like joy and increased energy will be the signs of successful surrender.” (NN11SA); “Resist not.” (Rhonda Byrne, The Secret); “It is what it is.” (Anonymous/You)

 

Secret #7: S=Serve;  _______ to lead.

 

1. Serve others so as to begin to understand your__________.
2. Service ushers you_________ ________ ________.
3. Service builds the ________ essential to leadership.

 

“The best leaders do not inflict pain—they endure it.” (NN11SA); “We are all destined to lead, but some of us are bound to follow (by refusing to serve.)” (Myles Monroe); “…he that is greatest among you, let him serve…” (Luke, Luke 22:26) “…Those who arrive at their destination teach those who are still on the path…” (Lao Tzu, Tao Te Ching); “I don’t know what your future will be; but one thing I do know: the only ones among you who will be really happy are those who have sought and found out how to serve.” (Albert Schweitzer.)

 

 

… and now,  the Microwave Answer to Leadership Development:

• Do not __________________________**
• Do not __________________________**
• Develop _________________________**
• … and never forget THE NICKY MELITO STORY

 

ADDITIONAL NOTES:

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JOSEPH R. CERVASIO

DIVERSIFIED GLOBAL STRATEGIES

973-725-8713

Nutley, NJ---West Palm Beach, Fla.

Mike D'Antoni Coach of LA Lakers!

In my March 15, 2012 entry for this blog, I wrote that Coach Mike would be working again soon. And now he leads the fabled LAKERS. Indeed, life is simple, but not easy. While D'Antoni has his critics, having met him I can tell you of his sincerity, work ethic, love for his craft, respect for his family roots, and desire to do what is right, even when it may not be popular. That last quality may have cost him his job with the Knicks as he resigned last spring in the midst of a playoff bid.

It is tough when a competitor must go to the sidelines, but the great ones do not rush the next step, they let their wounds heal, and fall into the Grand Design that the Grand Planner of all has penned. Ah, patience, ... "not running ahead of your interference," as my late backfield coach at Cornell, Carmine Piccone would remind me. Yep, that's what D'Antoni did, .... quietly, humbly, painfully. But an Old Testament teaching rings loud here: "That which the enemy meant for evil, God will turn for good."

Mike, all the best on the West Coast. You reminded us that life is simple, but not easy.

See Facebook (josephroccocervasio) entry for November 16, 2012 for other comments.

Leadership Lessons From The Godfather

... learn to lead from whence we least expected?

http://www.fastcompany.com/1826672an-offer-you-cant-refuse-leadership-lessons-from-the-godfather

 

Tim Tebow in New York??!!

You are hearing all the reasons why it won't work from the sport scribes and broadcasters. At the same time, you can surely detect the gasps of anticipation from the faith-based institutions and believers. And if the Highest Power in the Universe knows anything about football, He'd agree with all of us. But wait, how could He be so duplicitous, you ask???:

Tebow with the Jets will surely disrupt that already tenuous lockerroom; he will be a great teammate; the Jets won't win the Super Bowl; ... and this fine young man will not have an hour to himself, what with the many Christians in the greatest city in the world (and most worldly by the way) wanting him to visit every enclave that looks like a church, from the Upper East Side of NYC to the heart of the Central Ward in Newark.

So how could The Higher Power support such a conflagration of confusion? Because as Tim Tebow has said before, God could care less about who wins what football game. On the other hand, THE MOST CREATIVE FORCE IN THE UNIVERSE has set up an economy and design of living that if followed, will achieve results far superior than what the performer himself may be hoping for.

Tim Tebow is not the greatest quarterback in the world, but he may be the greatest football player to play the position of quarterback. Thus, he will continue to live life to the fullest, not have faith in God-but rather have the FAITH OF GOD; he will compete for the starting job against a good kid (Sanchez), ... and the glittering Big Apple will see a wonderful example of how life and competing should be done. (Yep, Tim Tebow's life mirrors each of the ...11 Secrets of Arimathea.)

For those who may be worried about Tebow and his followers throwing a net over you to get you to go to their church, relax. Tebow's job is to live his life and work and perform as he has been instructed. If you want to take a cue or two from him, ... great. It's not his job to convince you on a Higher Power--it's his job to help his team win games. In the end, on the other hand, more of us will follow his example than the Jets will win games. But, as said above, WHAT DID WE EXPECT, GOD CAN CARE LESS ABOUT WHO WINS WHAT FOOTBALL GAME.

Welcome to New York, Tim. It will be exciting seeing this SUPERNATURAL plan unfold. There are a few of us who know your stay here is not about football, but more important things.

Mike D'Antoni Will Coach Again

See comment at FACEBOOK, "josephroccocervasio".

Mike, you left it all on the court. Continued success. We look forward to your next Head Coaching assignment. If a Leader is popular with everyone, he/she is not a GREAT LEADER.

SECRETS OF LEADERSHIP SUCCESS, ... Well Received at St. Mary's of Rutherford (NJ) HS

On Friday, February 3, the student body and leadership at St. Mary's of Rutherford responded well to a talk customized for their wonderful family of teachers, administrators, coaches, and students.

A couple of reactions:

1. "I sincerely enjoyed meeting you Friday. I had a few guys from the team come up and tell me how they enjoyed your talk. Thank you for taking the time to come to St. Mary H.S and join our team of educators who care deeply about the youth of today!
lets do it again Joe, you were terrific!"

2. "I want to personally thank you for a great presentation to our student body. I believe it made our students reflective upon the spiritual as well as the materialistic components of life. You humor acted as a perfect segue into the real values that they need to establish for themselves."

As I told the large group at the onset of the talk, I knew one life that day would be changed. It was mine! What a great group of young people and adult leaders, serving each other in this wonderful example of private education at its best.

Joe Cervasio

TIM TEBOW WILL HAVE SHORT CAREER...

in professional football. However, he will leave it sooner than his present strongest critics will then endorse.

Think about it.

Joe Cervasio, 1/13/12

CHANGE YOUR LIFE: LEARN FROM TIM TEBOW

Go to Facebook (josephroccocervasio) for Monday, January 9, 2012 comment, and change how you think, act, and live.

Joe Cervasio

Bringing You Sunshine for 2012

... from my old friend Martin Dale Lieberman, by way of Bedford Sty HS, Ryder College, the Poconos, and the Schools of Hard Knocks (PHd).

The spirit of the Greatest Generation, the Sound of Swing, Louie Prima, and the realization that true happiness comes from joy, ... and that exists regardless of outside circumstances.

Here it is as we wish you Happiness and Joy for 2012:

 http://www.youtube.com/watch_popup?v=oXvJ8UquYoo&vq=large

TIM TEBOW AND LEADERSHIP 101

Today, Wednesday, December 14, 2011, a must-see column by Matthew Dowd in the Star Ledger teaches some valuable lessons on Leadership.

Go to http://www.nationaljournal.com/reporters/bio/14  for a basic look on Leadership (or the lack thereof), as written by Dowd and demonstrated by the Denver Bronco QB.

Tim Tebow is not just another NFL player who happens to believe in the Higher Power. He has taken proverbial wisdom on how to live and applied it to his calling--to be the best Leader he can possibly be as a professional football player.

Dowd scores a TD here.