BY POPULAR DEMAND: "Just Who Do You Think You Are? "... The Notes, ... well, Almost.

To my old friends, colleagues, and teammates of the past who have expressed interest, here is the outline distributed to the 2013 Cornell Football Team on their Career Day on Friday, April 26, 2013.

Don't mean to tease you all, but if you want the "blanks" filled in, just give a call. It would be my pleasure to pass on the answers, but better yet, just to talk and catch up.

Joe Cervasio

“JUST WHO DO YOU THINK YOU ARE?

… AND THE SEVEN SECRETS TO MAKE IT SO!”

 

By Joseph R. Cervasio,

ILR 1969, Cornell Football 1965-68

 

 

 

1. Welcome and Thank You.

 

 

 

1. Definition of Enthusiasm.

 

 

 

1. Purpose Statement.

 

 

 

1. “Just Who Do You Think You Are?”

 

 

 

1. The Answer

 

 

 

1. The 7 Secrets to Make it So:

 

L—E—A—D—E—R—S

 

 

VII.     The Rest of the Story

 

 

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ADDITIONAL NOTES:

 

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THE 7 SECRETS OF LEADERSHIP=L-E-A-D-E-R-S

 

 

 

Secret # 1, The Foundational Secret: L=Live in the________________.

 

1. The past is _______, the future is a ________, this moment is a gift, and that is why we call it the _________.
2. ________ dwells on the past; we strive and lust for the future out of________.
3. The barometer you are not in the present moment: _________.
4. To the _____, the present hardly exists.
5. If the mind carries a ________of the past, you will experience more of it.
6. When you receive a good gift, you are_______. If the present moment is a gift, why the_________? You will see that we spend little time ______this present; spending most of the time in the past or future,

 

“A feeling of peace and timelessness will show you have entered the present.” (Now or Never: The 11 Secrets of Arimathea {NN11SA}); “I have little use for the past and rarely think about it…” (Eckhart Tolle, The Power of Now); “Be anxious for nothing…” (Paul, Philippians 4:6) “Use every moment and every meeting to gain knowledge.” i.e., become a life-long learner and listener (NN11SA);

 

Secret #2, E=_____________

 

1. Empathize, do not ______________, which is cheap; walking in others’ shoes requires ___________________.
2. Love that expects ____ _____is the most powerful force in the world.
3. _______love eradicates selfishness, envy, jealousy, greed, lust, ignorance, and self-pity from the giver.
4. Love_______.
5. Enter their______.
6. __________ in entering others’ worlds builds understanding that leads to ____.

 

“Love every moment and every person, regardless how unlovable.” (NN11SA); “Greater love has no one than this, than to lay down one’s life for his friends, …” (John, John 15:13); “(Different) behaviors are not good or bad—but unless we acknowledge that we all function and reason differently, we will never understand one another, (NN11SA); “The Platinum Rule: Do unto others as they want to be done unto.” (Larry Wilson, Social Styles) Tim Tebow vs. Tom Brady lesson.

 

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Secret #3, A= Act _________:

 

1. _______creates reality.
2. _____what you are becoming.
3. Your ______ is in this moment.
4. Don’t dig up the seed. Stay in the process of __________.
5. Do not be afraid of  ___________.
6. Develop another ______________.**

 

“Practice faith until it is stronger than fear, lust, doubt, and anxiety.” (NN11SA); “Act as if in cold blood that it is, and it will become infallibly real.” (Napoleon Hill, Think and Grow Rich); “This, too, shall pass.” (Og Mandino, The Greatest Salesman in the World)

 

Secret #4: D=______ it now

 

1. Embrace ________, ________for others.
2. Don’t be better, be________.
3. Look forward to _______and the ________it will cultivate in you.
4. For situations to change, you must________.
5. Do it now, but never be __________.

 

“Activity dedicated to others will not tire the doer, but rather inspire and revitalize.” (NN11SA); “If you want to predict your future, invent it.” (Einstein); “Faith without works is dead.” (James, James 2:16) “Try not, … do or do not. There is no try!” (Yoda of “Star Wars.”) “Joe, don’t run ahead of your interference. Be patient.” (Carmen Piccone, Cornell Football Coach, 1968)

 

Secret #5: E=____________________

 

1. Recognize Inner______________.
2. Do not stereotype or limit _________.**
3. Do not stereotype or limit _________.**
4. Believers and atheists alike believe in the ____________in man.
5. Be __________/__________/__________of your miraculous capabilities.

 

“Know that in the moment, if you have done your best, all is well.” (NN11SA); “Don’t complain about the kids. They’re the only ones we have.” (Joe Paterno, Penn State Football Coach)

 

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Secret #6: R= Resist__________, ______________

 

1. ______ to surrender to the moment.
2. Give up the____________________.
3. Surrender is_________________ and ____________________.
4. Escaping to the past and future may be sign of _______, manifesting as_______________, _______________, _____________, ____________.
5. But, do not take counsel of your _____________!

• F=FALSE,E=EVIDENCE,A=APPEARING,R=REAL.
• F=FUTURE, E=EVENTS, A=APPEARING, R=ROTTEN.

 

“Child-like joy and increased energy will be the signs of successful surrender.” (NN11SA); “Resist not.” (Rhonda Byrne, The Secret); “It is what it is.” (Anonymous/You)

 

Secret #7: S=Serve;  _______ to lead.

 

1. Serve others so as to begin to understand your__________.
2. Service ushers you_________ ________ ________.
3. Service builds the ________ essential to leadership.

 

“The best leaders do not inflict pain—they endure it.” (NN11SA); “We are all destined to lead, but some of us are bound to follow (by refusing to serve.)” (Myles Monroe); “…he that is greatest among you, let him serve…” (Luke, Luke 22:26) “…Those who arrive at their destination teach those who are still on the path…” (Lao Tzu, Tao Te Ching); “I don’t know what your future will be; but one thing I do know: the only ones among you who will be really happy are those who have sought and found out how to serve.” (Albert Schweitzer.)

 

 

… and now,  the Microwave Answer to Leadership Development:

• Do not __________________________**
• Do not __________________________**
• Develop _________________________**
• … and never forget THE NICKY MELITO STORY

 

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JOSEPH R. CERVASIO

DIVERSIFIED GLOBAL STRATEGIES

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